What I Know About Marriage

 

Not much.

What do I know? I have only been married for about seven years before making my epic escape from it. Yes, escape is the perfect word, not leave but escape.

I only know that it's hard, especially when you're not educated about marriage before getting married. You have got twelve years of basic education, four or ten more years of professional education before you can get a decent job. But you have zero education before getting in life-long commitment with someone being their spouse and being someone's parent. 

I know that it's complicated because it involves so many people rather than your husband or wife. Your parents, in-laws, their siblings, their ex(es) if any, their own children if any, their friends and work acquaintants, their mistress(es) if I may say. Those people always have a certain place in your marriage life whether you like it or not, sometimes small if you're lucky, otherwise good luck.

I also know that it evolves. The person you are sharing your bed with every night now may not be exactly the same person you married five or ten years ago. They've grown with time, mentally and physically, and so have you. So the relationship between you two is dynamic, not constant, and it will always be like that until death do you part.

I learned that there are legal obligations you must follow once you're married to someone and I don't see the point of it, excuse me for that. This relates directly to my first point about education before action.

I know that there are so fortunate people who also persevere that they found the right person and stayed happily in their marriage for life. The less fortunate leave, or escape as in my case.

I know that I had good times and memories, but not enough to keep me stay. 

I know that I'd been loved for a while but not long enough to keep me safe. 

I know that starting from scratch is extremely hard but I chose it anyway. 

The one thing I know for sure about marriage is I am (still) whole without one. 

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